i asked my friends earlier this day, a question that for them may seem a weird and random question for them but a serious one for my knowing...
is it ok to fall in love with your cousin? Like marry him/her and stuff?
Charles said, it would be incest, and so did AJ, and all the other guys, Charles even claimed it to be worse than being homosexuals *no offense* and being married as gay. It's one of the worst kinds of stuff on his well point of view, I just asked my mother and she said probably its incest. So I ask myself, why is it consider bad? In the case of 1st cousins.
Like what if you really fell in love with your cousin, and you're not even close before, your family has been living apart for all these years? Why would it be incest? What is incest anyway? Marrying someone within your nuclear family? Isn't that who we all are, related as one family?
They'll say it was ok for the people in the past, my question is? Why isn't it okay now? Are we ruled by a dictating "traditional" society, some liberal minded's may take this far and say why we should be allowed to marry our grand children too, which is a big no no for me...but what about cousins?
why is it forbidden for two cousins to fall in love with each other?
why?
kDabs
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ps1...I asked Josh about this matter, he asked me to ask a dead guy, Dr. Jose Rizal...well i guess I won't be getting any answers for a very long time...
ps2...I leave the question to you? Why? If love is all those boundaries crap and etc, why is it that we are dictated by modernity and traditional rulings?
Dabsq, marrying your first cousin is NOW prohibited by the Church for good reasons. To wit;
ReplyDeleteNature itself seemed to abhor the marriage of close kin, since such unions are often childless and their offspring seem subject to grave physical and mental weakness (epilepsy, deaf-muteness, weak eyes, nervous diseases), and incur easily and transmit the defects, physical or moral, of their parents, especially when the interbreeding of blood-relations is repeated (Santi-Leitner, op. cit., IV, 252; Huth, "The Marriage of Near Kin, considered with respect to the Law of Nations, the results of Experience and the teachings of Biology", London, 1875; Surbled, "La morale dans ses rapports avec la médecine et l'hygiène", Paris, 1892, II, 245-55; Eschbach, "Disputat. physiologico-theolog.", 99 sqq.; Luckock, "The History of Marriage, Jewish and Christian, in relation to divorce and certain forbidden degrees", London, 1894; Esmein, "Le mariage en droit canonique", Paris, 1891, I, 337, sqq.; see also Wernz, op. cit. IV, 686-37, and the Encyclical of Gregory XVI, 22 Nov., 1836).
Complete text: http://www.newadvent.org/cathen/04264a.htm
It is not wrong to fall in love, but it is wrong to fall in love with the wrong person. You can re-direct this feeling to other endeavours which you find interesting at your age. Believe, this feeling will eventually die down and go away. God bless!
don't worry I am not this person :))
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